Accomplishment Coaching

For many of us, we collapse these two concepts.  Not by our own fault, but by our training.  Most days, our bosses and colleauges are expecting us to “better manage” the processes and outcomes of our jobs.  Frequently when we get advice on how to manage, it’s about controlling, driving or measuring more.  No wonder we struggle to lead.

Leadership isn’t about controlling, driving or measuring.  It’s about courage, inspiration, intimacy and service.  It’s about setting situations and people free to do their own work – even inside the walls of corporations.

Want to learn more about the difference between management and leadership?  Join me tomorrow, July 23rd at 11:30am for “Fundraising 3.0 – Stop managing and start producing results” hosted by the Association of Fundraising Professionals Greater Detroit.  Learn more by watching the video and clicking here for reservation details.

Looking forward to seeing you Friday.

- Coach Preston

www.technobizcoach.com

Michigan is working through an interesting transition.  It’s requiring much from all of us, especially those in a career search.  It’s requiring that all of us consider a new paradigm, not only regarding the automotive industry, but in ourselves as well.

If we put this in the realm of seeking a new job, one of the old paradigms is the resume.  You know, that piece of paper that we edit incessantly in hopes that we’ll find just the “right” language to use.

But does a resume really do us justice in an economy that continues to view human beings as a commodity?  Does a resume truly communicate who we are?

I’ve found a few things get in the way of effectively communicating, especially when we rely on a resume:

• ego and minimalism (how can I win by doing the least amount of work)
• an emphasis on pleasing or impressing (fluffing the BS)
• focus on the past (jobs, experience, what once was)

As natural as any of these may be, they will cripple any job search.

Rather, what if folks threw out their resumes completely and took on the following:

1. Conducted a job search from the perspective of integrity and well-being. I.e. resumes are EASY, but typically ineffective in promoting yourself.  I’ve never met someone who’s been hired from their resume.  I’m sure it happens, but you’ll likely be hired because of the relationships you form. That takes work and that work takes stamina.  Focus on scheduling your time effectively, doing what you say you’ll do, and make time EVERY day for your spiritual, physical, mental and emotional well-being.
2. Spend 90% of your time networking with EMPLOYED people who can introduce you decision-makers. Stop “tricking up” your resume – what a waste of time.  Spend that time meeting folks and sharing yourself.  A good TIP = find out where movers and shakers volunteer their time and get involved with those organizations – you’ll meet all the decision-makers you could dream of AND help out great causes.
3. Brainstorm and present ideas that make difference. If I’m hiring someone for my company, I don’t care what they’ve done in the past.  Just like the financial services TV commercials say, “Future results are not indicative of past performance”.  What I do care about is “what ideas do they have and are willing to implement that will make a difference for my organization?”  Come up with solutions to current problems.  Better yet, come up with solutions to problems that aren’t yet uncovered.  You’ll set yourself miles beyond all other job seekers.

If you invest more time creating relationships and solutions vs. word-smithing your past, you’ll land that ideal job in no time.

Happy Resume Shredding,

- Coach Preston

http://www.technobizcoach.com

I ran across an interesting question on LinkedIn Answers today…

“When you telecommute, how do you stay connected with your place of business?  Today, we are seeing a shift in the workplace and the number of remote employees is on the rise. Technology has aided in this transition by allowing for businesses to be run from home. We know that employees are able to work effectively from home, but how do remote workers remain connected to their organization? How do they establish themselves as present employees who are part of the team despite their location?”

What a great question as it touches on a topic / situation that goes well beyond just “tele-commuting” – it addresses the more contextual challenge we have in creating relationships that make a difference.

These ideas may fall outside of what you see and I invite you to consider them anyway:

Relatedness – where are we practicing or not practicing the following: sympathy, understanding, compassion, authenticity, vulnerability, connection?

Responsibility – where are we practicing or not practicing the following: being answerable, dependable, being “at cause”, looking to oneself as the source of the relationship (in any condition), choosing rather than blaming?

Integrity – where are we practicing or not practicing the following: entering conversations complete (unimpaired by the past), wholeness, acceptance, honesty, have my speaking / intentions / actions all in alignment?

Communication – where are we practicing or not practicing the following: being open, willing to say what there is to say regardless of interpretation or consequence, definite, flexible, speaking from heart, generous, listening for another’s greatness rather than faults, revealing (vulnerable)?

As great as technology is to enhance the “efficiency” of communication, it does not increase “effectiveness” of communication – i.e. we’ve all read an email that, although well intended, upset the recipient. In fact, consider with the increase of communication technology, we’ve actually become less intimate. As I reply to this LinkedIn Answer, I’m alone typing away – the irony is magnificent.

I’m certainly a big fan of technology – most of my clients are in that business. And a possible Achilles Heel might be in technology’s inability to create truly intimate relationships – a key to effective “connectedness” regardless of geographic location.

What’s possible for any of us if we kept “relationship” at the forefront of communication rather than technology?

Here’s to relating,

-Coach Preston

Life and work, at times, feel like an uphill struggle.  We constantly second-guess our careers, our roles, our projects, our life, our relationships and … and … and…

I do it too.  Maybe more than anyone else.

The thing is, where does it get us?  Not very far, although I keep trying to prove that theory wrong. 

A recent email from an out-of-work IT professional sparked some thoughts on how to make life / business a bit less of an uphill climb:

• Consider there is no such thing as perfection.  Perfection is an invented conversation whose only purpose is to keep us confused and disengaged from pursuing what we really want.  It’s sneaky too as many people say “But I’m not trying to be perfect.”  If you’re experiencing frustration about where you are in life, you are engaging in some type of “perfection-seeking”.  So, stop looking / striving for it.
• Stop pursuing what you think is the “right” career path (the one everyone else tells you to follow)  and start pursuing what you’re heart is telling you.
• Make time daily for prayer and reflection. If all you do is spend 10 minutes per day in silence, your world will change for the better almost overnight.
• Cancel all of the following as of today: a) Newspaper / magazine subscriptions, and b) Cable/satellite TV
• Stop watching, listening or researching the news – period.  The media is poisonous and it’s 100% deadly when you’re down.  There is nothing important about the news.  If there is, it will find you without you seeking it.
• Find a book club, professional group or recreational group to hang out with.  Make sure the folks are in it for the activity and to support one another.
• If unemployed, stop hanging around unemployed people.  They are almost as poisonous as the media and are likely not in a position to hire you.
• Sigmund Freud has a brilliant quote, “What you resist, persists.”  All the ways you’re trying to “fix” yourself will only make you more broken.  Fixing is the easiest way to resist what we don’t like about ourselves, but will result only in the persistence of our perceived brokenness.
• How do you find what will work for you as a career?  In my case, I followed my heart and said “f-you” to all the folks who said I was nuts or wrong.  Not a very “coach-like” method, but it initially got me into a career I love.
• Don’t stop when it gets tough.  If it’s getting tough, it means you’re almost at the point of breakthrough.  Seth Godin wrote a brilliant book called “The Dip”.  He explains this thought in detail.  Read it.

Regardless of how steep life’s hill is, I realize I have a daily choice:  a) allow my circumstances and stories to kick me to the curb, or b) go make a difference for someone.  Which should I choose?

Trust,

-Coach Preston

Send Out Card reps, be prepared – I’m going to stir up the pot.

Yesterday, I received this in an email – it’s the third such email I’ve received in two weeks:

“Hi Preston – I just got your card in the mail and thank you so much!  What a personal way of connecting.”

You’ve got to be kidding.  I’m not sure which is more disconcerting: a) that someone acknowledged a hand-written note with an email, or b) that many of these comments have come from people who are in the same business as me – a business whose foundation is built on intimacy.

In a culture that increasingly promotes “efficiency”, we are rapidly losing touch with intimacy.  You know, that close, familiar, and caring relationship we have with people.

As a technology consultant or professional, you understand the benefit of being more efficient – who wouldn’t want to move through one task more quickly to get to another you’re more interested in?  Plus, you’re perfectly positioned to help folks leverage technology to be more efficient.

But why are we trying to move more quickly through the “task” of creating a close, familiar and caring relationship?  The irony is amazing.  How much time does it really take to write a note, lick the envelope/stamp, and put it in the mailbox?  Is the time saved worth NOT making a deeper connection?

If you’re wondering why more people aren’t identifying themselves as prospects, why clients aren’t buying more, or why your staff seems so resistant to change, you might consider your emphasis on “efficiency” is doing more damage than good.

At what cost are you “benefitting” from efficiency?

Leadership Practices:

1. Get “thank you” notes printed and MAIL them after every sales meeting you have.
2. Stop sending computer generated “thank you’s” (email, computer generated cards, etc).
3. Schedule 30 minutes a day to connect with just one of your staff – leave work out of the conversation completely.
4. Notice where you feel you can’t be yourself in relationships.
5. Notice what scares you most about being vulnerable – i.e. what’s the real fear?

Your technical skill and knowledge is a gold mine – prospective and current clients value it tremendously.  Just beware that the “pull to efficiency” may be doing more damage to the growth of your business than you realize.  Revitalize the concept of intimacy in your business and notice the result.

Think about it,

-Coach Preston